6 Smart Ways to Make Sure Co-Workers Don’t Waste Your Time

Do you ever have co-workers or employees that just drop by your office to chat?  Time is precious.  Once it is gone, you can’t get it back.  So you have to make the best use of what you have.  Don’t let people take advantage of your time.  Do people truly need to talk or do they just “want” to talk?  This doesn’t mean you never have time for others, it just means you limit the time you give away or let others take, especially when you are busy, on a deadline, or a tight schedule. 

Some tips to help you accomplish this.

1.   Be polite, but say, “I would love to chat, but I’m on a tight schedule today.  Can we make an appointment tomorrow” or whenever it is convenient for you.  If it is important the person will schedule.  Most likely they will say it wasn’t important and forget about it.

2.  Close your door if you have one.

3.  Hang a "Do Not Disturb” sign on your door or desk.

4.  Keep a pile of papers on the extra chair in your office so people don’t just make themselves at home.

5.   Keep writing or typing when someone walks in, listen but make sure it looks like you are concentrating on something.

6.   Don’t answer the phone.  It will move your focus elsewhere.  Whatever the person has to say, they can tell voice mail.  People are always much briefer when talking to a machine than a real person. 

Try at least one of these tips out today and let me know if it makes a difference.  If you have a tip to add, please list it in the comments.

Happy Father's Day!

Most people love and admire their father. And on Dad's day we especially try to acknowledge our father with cards, gifts and kind words.

It was no different in our family. Neal and I were up early to make Michael breakfast in bed. He was showered with kisses, gifts, and love before his feet hit the floor. (Michael started making me breakfast in bed on Mother's Day when Neal was 2 weeks old. I have done the same for him on Father's day. So this is a longstanding tradition.) We then attended church as a family.

Neal and Michael Smith

We took Michael's father, Patrick Smith out to dinner at Red Lobster the night before. And then visited him after church.

 

          Patrick and Michael Smith                                                             Neal and Patrick Smith

                                                                           

Neal, Patrick and Michael Smith

Then we came home for a while and prepared food for a picnic with my parents and siblings to honor my father. Today was a special Father's Day for us. My Dad has been so ill and he is now doing a bit better and it was sort of a celebration of his improved health as well as Father's Day.

David That O'Neal, David O'Neal, Heidi O'Neal, and Robin O'Neal Smith

We took some pictures, we visited with him, we gave him gifts, we ate a great meal that we all contributed to, and then we visited some more. It was a great day!

 Heidi O'Neal and David O'Neal                                                     Thad O'Neal and David O'Neal

Robin O'Neal Smith and David O'Neal

My sister, brother and I, all have much to be thankful for. His improved health, and that we were so fortunate to have him as a father. Also, that he loved our mother and they stuck together for all these years!

David and Donna O'Neal

I'm sure each of us could tell many things we have learned from our father, but those are for another post.

I will leave you today with one final picture .......

Thad O'Neal, Donna O'Neal, My Dad - David H. O'Neal, Heidi O'Neal, and Robin O'Neal Smith

............and just to say...Father's are special and mine is the best!

Saying Goodbye To My Gram

Today's post is about someone very special to me. My Grandmother, Dorothy Figard. She passed away May 18, 2011. My gram wasn't just a grandmother; she was one of my biggest fans and a friend. In her mind, she always thought I could do just about anything.

Even after her death, an hour before her funeral, when I was asked to say a few words during the ceremony, I didn't think I could do it without falling apart, but I did, because I knew she would think I could and I wanted to pay her the respect of saying a few things. Someone who lived 86 years on this earth deserved some personal words and anecdotes about their life.


My grandmother was an "Angel on Earth." Not that she was perfect and never did anything wrong, just that she was there for so many people over the years. I feel God puts us here and he decides how long we get to stay. We were so blessed he allowed my gram to be a blessing here on earth for 86 years.


I have lots of great memories of my gram, but the first one I can remember is riding in a car with her and my pap. I must have been about four. She had long, dark, wavy hair and red lipstick and the wind was blowing her hair back (before cars had air conditioning..windows were down) and she was so beautiful.


I can remember her making me Rice Krispie Treats and fudge.


I can remember that she always had the tiniest ankles.


When I was growing up and in my teens...she was certainly my biggest fan, almost to the point of being obnoxious. She told everyone in the town what a wonderful person I was and about all of my accomplishments. She ran a pizza shop/coffee shop and everyone in town knew her and they ALL knew about me!


When my pap passed away we had a lot of long talks. She loved him dearly and missed him so much. I would always talk about what I remembered about him and that made her happy...that someone still wanted to talk about him.


My Gram was a huge Pittsburgh sports fan. She loved the Pirates, Steelers, and the Penguins. She would get so involved she would swing her "terrible towel" and yell at the TV when they made a mistake. She was so excited one time when her team made an outstanding play that she flipped her chair. She had a shoulder injury and had to have several months of therapy. I cannot remember my grandmother ever being mad, except for when players messed up big time during sporting events. I would plan my visits to her around the sports schedule, because if sports were on....she just couldn't pay attention to anyone else.


When my son, Neal was born, she thought he was the best thing since "sliced bread." She loved when I would take him to visit and he enjoyed spending time with her. They used to enjoy watching "Judge Judy" together.


My grandmother showed her love to others by cooking them stuff. She was a wonderful cook. Many people in the Broad Top still rave about the pizzas and hoagies she used to make. When she would bake raisin filled cookies, she would always make me pineapple filled since I didn't like raisins. They were wonderful! She also made the best homemade noodles I have ever tasted and everyone in the extended family loved her Ham Pot Pie. Many times when she came to visit she would bring a plate of Monkey Bread that we all loved.


Running a Pizza Shop in the 60's and 70's, she got to know many of the teens that hung out there. Many confided in her about things. She often knew that babies were on the way long before the teens told their parents, or who was upset with their parents and who had a fight with their girlfriend. Many times she would just listen and be supportive. Other times she would offer advice, telling them their parents loved them, they should go home and not drink anymore, they needed a friend to drive them, etc.


We all have a purpose here on earth. Some of us learn what our purpose is early and some just never figure it out. My gram found hers - she was an angel on earth to her family and many of the teenagers that loved her like family. Her legacy is three daughters and many grandchildren who all loved her and will continue to relish the memories we have of her and keep her alive in our hearts for years to come. I hope we can all live up to her standards.


Now our "Angel on Earth" is in Heaven.

I created a video tribute to my gram after her funeral.

Gram, I will always love and miss you.